加拿大清华校友会钢琴零基础培训。

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CjRsxzk1CwE

钢琴弹唱第11课
2022-2-28
哔哩哔哩:
https://www.bilibili.com/video/BV1Nq4y147wr/

油管:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CjRsxzk1CwE

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Affirmation words for family relationship 助于家庭关系的金玉良言

  1. Though I cannot control others’ reactions, I am in control of how I react to others
  2. We have a healthy, strong and loving relationship that is always improving.
  3. I am grateful for every member of my family.
  4. Everyday I give thanks to my family for the role they play in my life.
  5. I am a source of joy and happiness for my family.
  6. I am committed to maintaining a healthy relationship with my family.
  7. In this family, we build each other up, instead of tearing each other down.
  8. I take family drama in stride and focus on our love for each other instead.
  9. I will only speak loving words to all members of my family.
  10. I am sensitive to my family’s needs.

今天醒的比较早,随便看了一下伦敦华人网,看到里面有一个新闻说是52岁的一个华人男子杀害妻子留下一双年幼的儿女。我查了一下地址,这个位置还真就是我经常去散步的Jack Chambers Elementary School 小学附近。看的这个新闻我震惊,之后我就想,对于我们的家人呢,应该给她们无条件的爱,永恒的关怀,最温暖的语言,最无边的包容,不评判,不指责,多聆听。。。我们时常因为自己难于控制自己的情绪(比如小争吵,财务问题,孩子教育问题,对原生家庭的观点偏差等等),就会想甩锅亲人,把怒火烧到身边的亲人,或者喋喋不休地抱怨。。。当情绪风暴来临,两步走:1)先深呼吸,数数1到10,问问自己,我为什么生气,是我自己的什么需求没有得到满足?我对身边的亲人有什么样的期盼?站在对方的立场上,这些期盼合理吗?对于亲人的期盼,我们有用非暴力沟通里的技巧作四步(观察–感受–需求–请求)沟通吗?2)保持沉默,如果不能保持沉默,离开现场,等情绪恢复后再回到现场。心情回复回到现场不是急于给对方讲道理,而是耐心地倾听对方的心声,听听对方是怎么想的。古语的听字:聽:听的时候要用心(一心一意),要眼睛注视对方(十分即100%的眼神)。。。

道理都明白,真实的生活中我们经常会条件反射,粗暴回应。。其实我们的心理能力也是需要每天“健身锻炼”的,只要心理装着信念,每天操作,只会越来越好。最好终会达到“你好,我好,大家好”的目标。

https://www.londonchinese.ca/portal.php?mod=view&aid=125360

DBT Hamilton

女儿找到了下边这个可以提供DBT 服务的地方:
https://www.dbthamilton.com/
看了地址,旁边是night club。不是很喜欢这个地点,看了谷歌星评,发现只有三星,很多一星差评.其中一个写道:
DBT Hamilton cares about money. They do not care about people. My gf went there desperately seeking help and they left her during trauma work in the exposure phase. They opened a can of worms that only made her worse. $8,000 was spent total through her insurance for her not to get help. The minute her benefits were done, so was her therapy with Dr. Lisa Burkell who is the main psychologist there. I also tried to seek help as we both witnessed a very traumatic event that led us to get help – over $2,000 was put through her insurance for me just for an assessment and 2 or 3 sessions with a therapist that was absolutely no help. We both gained nothing from this experience other than lost hope in therapy. If you are seeking help for BPD or trauma you can get free help from St. Joes hospital. The program is called Bridge to recovery. I hope this information can help those that truly need it without the financial means.

其中提到St. Joes, Bridge to recover program. 查了一下有很多实用信息:

Hamilton resources:

https://www.stjoes.ca/hospital-s … community-resourcesWebsites/Applications211
A link to community resources and programs within various geographieshttp://www.211ontario.ca/Phone: 905-211-Breathehttps://app.stopbreathethink.org/
Headspace
https://www.headspace.com/
MyThoughtSpot
http://mythoughtspot.ca/
National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder
A resource for information and videos for Families and People in Recoverywww.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com
New York-Presbyterian Weill Cornell Medical CenterBorderline Personality Disorder Resource Centerhttp://www.nyp.org/bpdresourcecenter
The Linehan InstituteResources for Family and Friendshttp://behavioraltech.org/index.cfm

ProgramsFamily Connections Program A 12 week psycho-education group we offer to families and friends of individuals with B.P.D.
(see below to view/download program description and registration form)
Peer Support ResourcesMental Health Rights Coalition,
103-100 Main Street East, Hamilton
905-545-2525
www.mentalhealthrights.caPatient & Family Collaborative Support Services,
St. Joseph’s Healthcare Hamilton West 5th Campus, Room G209
905-522-1155

Peer Support Providers – ext. 36600
Family Liaison/Peer Support – ext. 35599BooksLoving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship
Author: Shari ManningThe borderline personality disorder survival guide: Everything you need to know about living with BPD
Authors: Alexander Chapman and Kim L. GratzThe Buddha & The Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, & Online Dating
Author: Kiera Van GelderThe High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation
Author: Alan Fruzzetti
Additional Compiled Resource Documents, Pamphlets and BookletsAdditional DBT Programs in Ontario (covered by OHIP)Community Psychiatry PamphletCommunity Resources for the Hamilton Area – BookletCommunity Resources for the Hamilton Area – PamphletDBT Private Practice Resource List (NOT Covered by OHIP)Description of Family Connections Program
Family Connections Referral Form

好像七八年来,女儿第1次溜冰。.

2022年3月2号,本周星期五也就是后天是PA Day.女儿的同学约她去哈密尔顿的一个露天的溜冰场去溜冰。女儿从四年级到现在大概有七八年了,没溜过冰,她说她想去练习一下。我干紧抓住这个她想运动的机会,去帮找好溜冰鞋,查好哪个露天溜冰场,晚上有开。想了想就直接去downtown的那个溜冰场吧,那边灯光比较多。女儿本来还需要我来陪她玩,但是我找不到鞋子,后面她还是同意去了。没有溜多久她就出汗了,看她滑得非常的投入。我也非常的开心,大概玩了40分钟左右,然后我们就回来了,回家路上,她说以后要继续溜冰。从幼儿园开始学溜冰一直到小学三四年级也整整学了四年。基础还是在的,一上冰面就自由轻快。一直想方设法让她多参加户外的一些运动,没想到今天这么简单就实现了,真是太棒了。。。

Butterfly hug

今天上课老师讲的这个buterfly,我觉得还挺不错的。其实我们每个人在心情不好的时候,都可以用这个方式来关心我们自己。安慰我们自己,让自己在心情不好的时候,能够从1数到10很快速的平静下来。

今天被朋友的猫咬了四个伤口

家里两个小孩一人领养一只猫,我就很顺当的就变成了每天的铲屎官,自以为对猫很了解。两只猫买的时候领养回来,我就用手上去摸,跟他们玩。他们都非常的随和,从不生气。可是我朋友Peter的这个猫就不一样。 Peter因为要出去度假,所以呢,昨天晚上的时候把他的猫带到我们家,我今天大年初一,女儿独自在家,我中午从公司回来陪她吃个午饭,看到猫呢上去跟他打个招呼,把手伸出去跟他问好,没想到就被他咬了4个伤口。

刚被咬完的时候非常非常生气,因为呢特别的疼痛,真恨不得拿一根棍子揍扁他,把他制服了。或者至少把它关进笼子里,让他time out 4个小时以上。后来深呼吸几口气,想一想暴力沟通这本书,他生气总是因为有一些需求没得到满足。我觉得主要是因为他新到一个地方不太了解环境和周遭的人,他很自然第一反应会以为我要伤害他,他的安全这个需求没有得到满足,他会对我暴力回应。换个角度,如果这只是我家养的猫,而有一个陌生人到我家想把他抓走,那么呢,我会觉得他这么干还干得很漂亮,谁想伤害我们家的猫就把他咬了!这样同自己对话了一阵之后呢,终于静下心来。默默地看着他一阵之后,然后回去上班。接下来下午赶紧落实猫主人的疫苗证书。同时给家庭医生打了电话,医生说猫的牙齿特别脏,需要用肥皂水洗伤口。同时马上给我开了消炎药,传真到了药店。下班后赶紧去取了。。。

这只猫把另外两只猫也吓得大气不敢喘,到处找角落躲起来。而这只猫呢,倒像是家里的主人,四处去逛荡去找另外两只猫,整个家就是乱套了。其实太太想把这只猫带回来的时候,要问我一下,我是不会让她带回来的。因为猫彼此之间相处并不是那么容易,通常他们要分别住自己的小房间住一个星期之后呢,才能慢慢见面才能熟悉起来,另外呢也要根据猫的品种,并不是任何两只猫放在一起都能玩在一起。当我把这些道理讲给我老人听的时候,他反问我一句,多让他们一起玩一玩,熟悉起来不就好了吗?你应该让他们多待在一起。。。我的真的无语,轻轻的叹了一口气。他又高声说道,就这点小事你也要叹气。。。

20221月27日..记住进步,相信明天会更好

今天跟往常一样,6:30就起来,然后呢,昨天给女儿煮了一碗西红柿蛋汤,她非常喜欢,所以今天又变着花样,他准备炖蛋,蛋里面呢加豆腐,肉丝和青菜碎.在车上小小心心的提醒她一次说吃早餐吧,尝尝爸爸做的,她说没有胃口,快到学校了,我又提醒她一遍,她说嗯现在还不是很想吃,等到快下车的时候她尝了一口说好吃!她我要把我做的午餐呢放在书包里当做午餐吃,从9月份开始到现在,将近4个月的时间,这还是第1次她提出来要把我做的饭菜呢装到书包里,作为午餐.爸爸真是开心死了,要知道爸爸做的饭莱,除了西红柿蛋汤,西红柿炒蛋,麻辣豆腐稍微做的还可以。其他的菜每次做的都遭受一堆的批评。这让我相信真的叫有心人,天不负,只要你肯用心,什么事情都能做成。

另外她参加心理咨询的那个老师开始离开这个工作岗位,所以她也就没有辅导老师了,但是他说他可能不太需要了,她说她已经好了很多…想想以前她心情烦的时候,经常半夜开着车从我所居住的这个小镇开半小时车到旁边的哈密顿城市,downtown看万家灯火或者买一点吃的喝的,然后再回来,现在她再也不需要这种服务了。

记载平淡生活的点点滴滴