女儿今天比较开心，收到那个SHAD的那个McGill大学的夏令营确认信。同时呢，也开始做一些他最头痛的数学作业，所以呢我很开心，另外呢，我太太也准备在今天辞去她的会计工作，从繁多的压力中解脱出来。以前她有三份工作，企业的会计师，下班后自己弄了个注册会计师事务所帮人家报税，还有就是伦敦开了一个小餐馆，我觉得她确实太累了，这对太太是一个很好的转变。
那个其实特别喜欢唱歌，昨天晚上的时候就在自己的房间不停的哼歌。后来她还主动提出来要跟我一起唱中文歌，她说油管有那种拼音版的，我给她找了个拼音版的心太软和她一起唱，然后又唱了最炫民族风，。。昨天晚上呢，还和儿子做了一起数学作业，一开始他说他不是数学天才，他不想上额外的数学课，只想把最基本的对付过去就好了，参加一段时间之后，我发现对数学难题的兴趣增加了，虽然10道题他只能自己做一道两道题，大部分要和我一起攻关，但是啊，和我一起攻克难题之后，他那种成就感还是写在脸上。慢慢的他不会再那么不自信了，他也承认，其实上没有必要给自己设一个上限。
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今天醒的比较早，随便看了一下伦敦华人网，看到里面有一个新闻说是52岁的一个华人男子杀害妻子留下一双年幼的儿女。我查了一下地址，这个位置还真就是我经常去散步的Jack Chambers Elementary School 小学附近。看的这个新闻我震惊，之后我就想，对于我们的家人呢，应该给她们无条件的爱，永恒的关怀，最温暖的语言，最无边的包容，不评判，不指责，多聆听。。。我们时常因为自己难于控制自己的情绪（比如小争吵，财务问题，孩子教育问题，对原生家庭的观点偏差等等），就会想甩锅亲人，把怒火烧到身边的亲人，或者喋喋不休地抱怨。。。当情绪风暴来临，两步走：1）先深呼吸，数数1到10，问问自己，我为什么生气，是我自己的什么需求没有得到满足？我对身边的亲人有什么样的期盼？站在对方的立场上，这些期盼合理吗？对于亲人的期盼，我们有用非暴力沟通里的技巧作四步（观察–感受–需求–请求）沟通吗？2）保持沉默，如果不能保持沉默，离开现场，等情绪恢复后再回到现场。心情回复回到现场不是急于给对方讲道理，而是耐心地倾听对方的心声，听听对方是怎么想的。古语的听字：聽：听的时候要用心（一心一意），要眼睛注视对方（十分即100%的眼神）。。。
道理都明白，真实的生活中我们经常会条件反射，粗暴回应。。其实我们的心理能力也是需要每天“健身锻炼”的，只要心理装着信念，每天操作，只会越来越好。最好终会达到“你好，我好，大家好”的目标。
| 女儿找到了下边这个可以提供DBT 服务的地方： https://www.dbthamilton.com/ 看了地址，旁边是night club。不是很喜欢这个地点，看了谷歌星评，发现只有三星，很多一星差评.其中一个写道： DBT Hamilton cares about money. They do not care about people. My gf went there desperately seeking help and they left her during trauma work in the exposure phase. They opened a can of worms that only made her worse. $8,000 was spent total through her insurance for her not to get help. The minute her benefits were done, so was her therapy with Dr. Lisa Burkell who is the main psychologist there. I also tried to seek help as we both witnessed a very traumatic event that led us to get help – over $2,000 was put through her insurance for me just for an assessment and 2 or 3 sessions with a therapist that was absolutely no help. We both gained nothing from this experience other than lost hope in therapy. If you are seeking help for BPD or trauma you can get free help from St. Joes hospital. The program is called Bridge to recovery. I hope this information can help those that truly need it without the financial means. 其中提到St. Joes, Bridge to recover program. 查了一下有很多实用信息： Hamilton resources: https://www.stjoes.ca/hospital-s … community-resourcesWebsites/Applications211 A link to community resources and programs within various geographieshttp://www.211ontario.ca/Phone: 905-211-Breathehttps://app.stopbreathethink.org/ Headspace https://www.headspace.com/ MyThoughtSpot http://mythoughtspot.ca/ National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder A resource for information and videos for Families and People in Recoverywww.borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com New York-Presbyterian Weill Cornell Medical CenterBorderline Personality Disorder Resource Centerhttp://www.nyp.org/bpdresourcecenter The Linehan InstituteResources for Family and Friendshttp://behavioraltech.org/index.cfm ProgramsFamily Connections Program A 12 week psycho-education group we offer to families and friends of individuals with B.P.D. (see below to view/download program description and registration form)Peer Support ResourcesMental Health Rights Coalition, 103-100 Main Street East, Hamilton 905-545-2525 www.mentalhealthrights.caPatient & Family Collaborative Support Services, St. Joseph’s Healthcare Hamilton West 5th Campus, Room G209 905-522-1155 Peer Support Providers – ext. 36600 Family Liaison/Peer Support – ext. 35599BooksLoving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship Author: Shari ManningThe borderline personality disorder survival guide: Everything you need to know about living with BPD Authors: Alexander Chapman and Kim L. GratzThe Buddha & The Borderline: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder Through Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Buddhism, & Online Dating Author: Kiera Van GelderThe High-Conflict Couple: A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy, & Validation Author: Alan Fruzzetti Additional Compiled Resource Documents, Pamphlets and BookletsAdditional DBT Programs in Ontario (covered by OHIP)Community Psychiatry PamphletCommunity Resources for the Hamilton Area – BookletCommunity Resources for the Hamilton Area – PamphletDBT Private Practice Resource List (NOT Covered by OHIP)Description of Family Connections Program Family Connections Referral Form |
2022年3月2号，本周星期五也就是后天是PA Day.女儿的同学约她去哈密尔顿的一个露天的溜冰场去溜冰。女儿从四年级到现在大概有七八年了，没溜过冰，她说她想去练习一下。我干紧抓住这个她想运动的机会，去帮找好溜冰鞋，查好哪个露天溜冰场，晚上有开。想了想就直接去downtown的那个溜冰场吧，那边灯光比较多。女儿本来还需要我来陪她玩，但是我找不到鞋子，后面她还是同意去了。没有溜多久她就出汗了，看她滑得非常的投入。我也非常的开心，大概玩了40分钟左右，然后我们就回来了，回家路上，她说以后要继续溜冰。从幼儿园开始学溜冰一直到小学三四年级也整整学了四年。基础还是在的，一上冰面就自由轻快。一直想方设法让她多参加户外的一些运动，没想到今天这么简单就实现了，真是太棒了。。。